Author: Bridget Zappa Hahn

This is not a drill. You can be happy and joyful every day. It’s not pollyanna. It’s the law of attraction and it’s real.  

Like attracts like, so when you think a thought, you are attracting like thoughts to you. Your thoughts are magnetic and create your current life. What you think about the most or focus on the most will appear in your life – thoughts become things. If you want to change anything in your life, change the frequency or energy by changing your thoughts.

Nothing can come into your life without persistent thought. To know what you’re thinking, ask yourself what you’re feeling. Emotions are valuable tools that instantly tell us what we are thinking. The feeling of love is the highest frequency you can emit. 

Expect what you want. Gratitude and expectation are powerful attracting forces because  they shift your energy and bring more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you’ll attract more good things. 

The basic tenets of the Law of Attraction are:

• Ask the Universe for what you want. Get clear about it in your mind. 
• Believe and act as though you have already received what you’ve asked for. Then, people, events and circumstances align for you to receive. 
• Receive and feel the way you will feel if your desire has manifested. Visualize yourself enjoying what you want – it generates powerful thoughts and feelings then the Universe returns it to you. 

Feeling happy now is the fasted way to attract what you want into your life. That house you want is coming. That job you need is coming. That relationship you desire is coming. 

Praise and bless everything in the world and you will align with the highest frequency – love. The only thing you need to do is feel good now. 

Life is not always funny. There are clear physical and emotional reasons to laugh, however. One minute of anger results in toxic chemicals floating in the body for five hours, while one minute of laughter results in positive chemicals that strengthen the immune system for 24 hours. That’s pretty compelling. But there are plenty of other reasons to laugh. 

Laughter is healthy for the body and soul. Laughing lowers blood pressure, reduces stress and increases antibodies in the blood stream and makes us more resistant to infection.

Laughter provides us a moment of grace. It can catch us by surprise just as we never expect grace or good fortune when it arrives. And in that grace, we can have a better perspective on our life. It helps us not take ourselves too seriously and helps us stay positive, regardless of the circumstances in our lives. Even when things are as bad as we may think they are, laughter helps create positive emotions and helps us reframe our mindset so we can more easily cope with our struggles and challenges. 

Laughter doesn’t permanently solve any problems, but it makes things a lot more bearable for awhile. Laughing at our own mistakes eases tension and stress. When you can help your loved ones do the same, laughter becomes a loving act. Who doesn’t enjoy the laughter of a loved one or seeing them smile?

Laughter can also be a sign of humility and life. Children laugh nearly 100 times more per day than adults do. It’s another reason to look to kids for how to live with joy and gusto! 

We’re all flawed and imperfect. Life isn’t always easy. Sometimes it’s hard as hell. Start looking for more ways to laugh – and, regardless of your life situation or circumstance, you can change your outlook and mindset in seconds and improve your health. 

“Laugh my friend, for laughter ignites a fire within the pit of your belly and awakens your being.” – Stella McCartney

I’m on a healing journey. It can be day-by-day, sometimes hour-by-hour. All journeys are like that. You go five steps forward only to take three back, and on and on. That’s what makes healing and focusing on your mental health so important – and why it makes you stronger. 

Part of getting stronger is pulling inward and being as mindful as possible. For me, perhaps my greatest learning in the past year is how important my mindset is – it’s really the only thing I can control and it completely affects how I see the world and whether I am happy. 

How do I pull inward and direct my mindset? There are two tools I use: Meditation and tapping. 

First, meditation. Don’t let the word or concept seem bigger than it needs to be. I started meditating in five-minute increments. You can even quiet your mind in seconds through some slow, deep breaths. Meditation can be prayer. It can be simply closing your eyes and breathing through a challenging or negative thought. There are no quick and fast rules about how to do it. What’s important is to turn off technology, go somewhere in the house without other distractions and just spend some quiet time with yourself. 

Second, is tapping. This may be a more unknown practice than meditation, but I’ve used it to release stress or a specific emotion or pain. That’s what’s important with tapping – to focus thoughts on a fairly specific situation or challenge that I need to release. I’ve tapped around specific negative thoughts or emotions. Basically, I tap on specific body meridians or pulse points that have been scientifically proven to affect the mind and body. Think acupuncture points. This website has a good explanation of how to do it. Don’t knock it until you try it. 

Both meditation and tapping are resources for you to try as you work on your healing. I still use them – as part of my general and mental health. Give one or both a try and see if they work for you. Remember, it’s all about reframing the mindset because that is everything. 

Life has ups and downs. How you handle those ebbs and flows usually indicates how happy and resilient you are in life. For me, I choose to learn the lessons along the way and be a better version of myself. Sometimes those lessons are hard fought. The keys are gratitude and letting go. 

I read something recently about letting go. “Letting go. It simultaneously heals you and kills you.” There is truth in that. I’d add that letting go brings peace. If it doesn’t bring peace, maybe you haven’t learned the right lesson. 

I’ve learned a lot about myself in the last year. I’ve grown and changed for the better. My energy and my vibe are so important to me. I preserve them at all costs. Gratitude plays into this. I’m grateful for so much in my life – especially my best friends and my new relationship. 

I look back with gratitude. I know I gave my all and loved fully – I can’t regret that one bit. That’s how I love – all in without condition. I wish my prior partners – the one last year and one from 8 years before – only the best. They taught me more about the me I want to be now. I wouldn’t be here without what I learned from those people and relationships. 

I hereby let go of my past. I am now moving forward with excitement, hope, adventure and love. 

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh 

Each of us simply wants to matter in this world. We want to matter to those we love and others who are important to us. To matter is to be seen – to be seen for who we really are. 

To be seen is to to be heard. We rely too much on our phones and other technology. Often, we’re so distracted by our phones, that we don’t fully engage with others. That’s why listening, truly listening to others, is so challenging. Try respecting whoever you’re spending time with and keep your phones off or in your pocket or purse. 

To be seen is to know you’re loved. To be loved is a basic human need. When someone truly loves you, whether romantic partner, family or friend, they appreciate your light and dark. They see your beauty and your flaws. None of that matters when the love is real – because it’s unconditional. Each of us deserves this kind of love in life.

Often, this world wants us all to be the same. How boring! There is no one in this world just like you – you are the only you. Isn’t that wonderful?! Thats’ why to be truly seen is to know you’re worthy. To be seen is to know you are enough, just as you are. Know this and believe this. 

Being seen, really seen, is about being who you really are. It’s about love – for self and others. This scripture reading says it all: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”

Stay YOU. This is for every person who looks different, feels different, thinks differently. I see you. I feel you. I am you. Stay different. Our world needs us and the difference we will make. 

Whether you realize it or not, the moon and its phases affect your life. The moon is a powerful force. It controls the tides, is closely tied to natural human cycles, and represents transformation. The Moon is an eternal reminder that light is ever-present in our lives, even during dark times.

The moon reflects the light of the sun. Its phases reflect our connection to something larger, and to the rhythm of time itself. By attuning yourself to the moon’s phases, you can renew your own energies and align with the Universe. In connecting with the phases of the moon you can also get in touch with your own inner rhythms. 

The only constant in life is change. Constantly in flux, the moon is also never the same from one day to the next. Some of the key phases and how it can affect you are: 

• New moon Rest and renew yourself. Set your intention for the next moon cycle. Focus on self care. 

• Waxing moon Check in on your new moon intention and double down on it.

• Full moon (this week) Act in your fullest power. What bold move or decision are you ready to make?

• Waning moon Let go to rise higher and let go of what no longer serves you.

A divine symbol of protection from above, the moon is always watching over us. She’s our friend in the night. Embrace the natural rhythms of time, adapt to what comes, and remember that everything — no matter how challenging — is just a phase.

What phase are you in? Do you want to make your life the best it can be and move beyond any challenges. Let’s talk. 

Fuck. Valentine’s Day is this week. Even though my love and I never really marked the day (it was mutual), it’s been a difficult day since my heartbreak because it’s a day that celebrates love. 

The anticipation of an event like this is far more painful than the event itself. I know I’ll survive the day and get to Feb. 15 ok. But Feb 14 is a source of inner conflict and sorrow for me and this blog is an opportunity for me to be real and raw with you. It’s painful. The day is a reminder that I’m not fully healed and that I still love him and miss him everyday. 

So what to do? First, I let myself feel my emotions and not bury them within. I lean into my sadness and let myself cry if I need to. The silver lining here is that I’m in tune with my intuition. I’m also very connected to my heart chakra and believe in the power of love – unconditional, full, deep love. I know I’m worthy of it and fully capable of loving that way. That’s the wonderful reality – and my sadness and pain made me remember this amazing capability of my heart. 

After I’ve leaned into my emotions, I then choose to move beyond the pain and change my mindset. Mindset is really everything. Set that and you set your tone for each day. It’s also how you gain control of your energy and project that beauty to the world. 

Yes, Valentine’s Day is a difficult day for me. But I choose to love myself first this day – so I can better love others. My heart is alive and well. 

The words “manifestation” or “law of attraction” are not just trendy words or concepts. To me, they have truly made a difference in my world view and helped me restore my positive mindset. 

I’ve talked at length – here and in my videos – about how vital it is to protect your energy at all costs. I believe this because the energy and vibe you put out into the world is like your calling card. It says a lot about you. Also, what you but out comes back to you. You also you attract more of the same energy from others.

This concept of energy is the the basis of the law of attraction and manifesting your dreams. 

First, the law of attraction is like a boomerang effect – what you send out comes back to you. In addition to your energy, by seeing each situation in life through the lens of love, not fear, you send out confident and loving energy and others feel it. 

Love is the basis for manifesting your dreams. Know you are worthy of love and can make your desires and dreams real. How? Start by focusing on just feeling good. That is a tall order in itself some days, and that’s ok. To help you focus on that feeling, try envisioning what it would feel like to have your dreams come true. Beyond envisioning your dreams, start acting like your dreams and desires have actually happened. Wow – that’s a powerful manifesting practice!.

In addition to envisioning your dreams and acting like your dreams have happened, you also need to trust in divine timing. It may sound counter intuitive to act like your dreams are real but surrender the timing. That’s part of manifesting your dreams and desires. When you let go of the timing and trust the Universe, you can go with the flow. If in manifesting your dreams you block the flow of the Universe, you’re letting the Universe know that you may not trust it has your back. By surrendering the outcome and the timing, however, you let the Universe do its work to make your dreams come true.  

In this process, however, be gentle with yourself. It takes practice to exude positivity. When you doubt yourself, it’s ok. Know you are already enough and are worthy of all you dream and desire in your life! And you can make it happen!

What’s holding you back from living your best life? Have you experienced pain or loss and having a hard time healing? Do you truly love yourself and appreciate what makes you YOU?

Regardless of your answers, you are right where you’re supposed to be. Right now. Today. You are a beautiful divine creation and you matter, a lot more than you might know. You are meant to do great things in this world – all you need to do is find your inner badass and manifest the life you want you want to live.

Heal so you can manifest your best badass life.

• You are brave. You can heal yourself by identifying what’s holding you back and busting through your blocks. Empower yourself from the inside out. 

• You are a work of art. You have superpowers. Love yourself more and develop lovely self-care rituals. 

• The moon is magic and so are you. You can harness the power of the moon and its phases to set intentions for your life and make deliberate moves. 

• Believe in miracles. Tune into your heart, surrender, let go and trust the Universe has your back so you can peacefully manifest your dreams. 

Heal. Empower. Love. Manifest. It’s possible. 

I’m giving you the chance to connect with me personally. Make your dreams real in 2019.

Go to my website at bridgetzappa.com or more. I’d love to start with a conversation about whether this is the program for you. Send me a note at bczappa@comcast.net or call me at 612.743.5642. 

I’m excited for you to take 2019 by storm by helping you discover and rock your badass self!

“When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer

It takes a strong person to face challenges in life, especially when those challenges keep coming. Can you identify with that feeling? I sure can. If it’s not a challenging situation, it’s a thought or feeling that keeps rearing its head. For me it’s a sense of sadness and loss. Sometimes it really wears me down. 

I know that doesn’t sound like being my best self – but I’m being real with you and how I’m feeling. That’s why I understand how you may be feeling, too. 

One of the ways I try to move beyond the feelings of sadness is to try to keep growing. I read a lot of personal development books. One last year that really set my soul ablaze was “The Universe has your back” by Gabby Bernstein. That’s why I’m reading it again, especially the sections on surrender and letting go. I’m not good at that. I like to control elements of my life. When it comes to certain dreams and desires in my life, I really need to learn to let it go and trust the Universe. I know everything works out in Divine timing. 

To refocus my thoughts, I also try to set three words I set for myself each year instead of setting resolutions. My words this year are grace, badass and hope. 

• Grace. I want to be graceful in all I do and react with grace in the face of adversity. 
• Badass. I want to remind myself of my inner strength and tap into it, especially when I feel like I’m not enough. 
• Hope. I’m really hopeful about this year in so many ways. When I’m feeling down, I want to remember this. Hope is a positive emotion and sees so many possibilities even in hard times. 

In essence, my three words set my energy for the year. It’s also how I work to preserve and protect my energy at all costs. Energy is everywhere – in each emotion, interaction and how we respond to it. 

Because hope is one of my words this year, I stand read for miracles to happen in my life. Tapping into that mindset all about energy. When you to that, really do that, you can realize the magic that is you. 

You are responsible for your reality and your energy. Go out there and make it happen! You deserve it – and we can do it together.