Fuck. Valentine’s Day is this week. Even though my love and I never really marked the day (it was mutual), it’s been a difficult day since my heartbreak because it’s a day that celebrates love.
The anticipation of an event like this is far more painful than the event itself. I know I’ll survive the day and get to Feb. 15 ok. But Feb 14 is a source of inner conflict and sorrow for me and this blog is an opportunity for me to be real and raw with you. It’s painful. The day is a reminder that I’m not fully healed and that I still love him and miss him everyday.
So what to do? First, I let myself feel my emotions and not bury them within. I lean into my sadness and let myself cry if I need to. The silver lining here is that I’m in tune with my intuition. I’m also very connected to my heart chakra and believe in the power of love – unconditional, full, deep love. I know I’m worthy of it and fully capable of loving that way. That’s the wonderful reality – and my sadness and pain made me remember this amazing capability of my heart.
After I’ve leaned into my emotions, I then choose to move beyond the pain and change my mindset. Mindset is really everything. Set that and you set your tone for each day. It’s also how you gain control of your energy and project that beauty to the world.
Yes, Valentine’s Day is a difficult day for me. But I choose to love myself first this day – so I can better love others. My heart is alive and well.
