You may have heard this phrase before: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” Versions of this phrase have been attributed to Plato. What that means to me is that for hundreds of years, people have needed reminders to be kind, especially since so much of what we think and feel is hidden behind our external appearances.
Anxiety and depression and other emotional challenges are internal struggles. You don’t see someone at work, church or Target and think, “Oh, that person must have anxiety.” No. Those close to you often aren’t aware of your internal struggles – unless you tell them. If you can’t get out of bed in the morning or throughout the day try not to have a panic attack, it’s a battle few may know about. That’s why, whether you also face the same struggles or have a friend or family member who does, kindness should be your default in how you treat other people.
Kindness is underrated. It’s not necessarily as easy to make it your default, but it’s my goal. As humans, we tend to jump to judgment first and react with compassion later. Opening your heart to be more compassionate, kind and loving to others, is the challenge, and we can each meet it or ignore it. By treating others with kindness, it will be reflected back to you, especially at times when you need it most.
In fighting an internal battle (and I understand more than most), you may feel that it’s obvious to others, but it most likely is not. Part of that fight may be healing from an emotional or spiritual wound. That’s also a a very private battle. Healing a heart or patching up a soul can’t be rushed. It’s sensitive and sacred work. Similarly, if you’re being treated for depression or anxiety, be easy on yourself. You are a unique and beautiful creation and you’re not alone. Find others who you can trust and lean on. Those who will understand your ups and downs and love and support you anyway.
Whether you can lend love and support to a loved one, or simply be kind to others in all you do, you show you’re mindful of what’s hidden for all of us: our pain, struggle, challenges, battles.
