When I was younger, older adults often told me that life’s not easy – or fair. At the time, I wasn’t sure exactly what that meant. I was coping well with whatever I had going on at the time. To me, it seemed the advice was more about the person giving the advice that it was about me.
I don’t want to come across that way with you or anyone else. After all, life serves each of us different curve balls. We see our life changes based on our prior experiences and overall perceptions, too.
For example, how we face relationship loss or job loss can be completely different. I’ve experienced both this year. None were easy, but my relationship loss affected me so much more than my job loss. In fact, having that frame of reference enabled me to face my job loss with a broader perspective because it paled in comparison to losing the love of my life. I’m still healing from that heartache.
If you have similar situations, know that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. I’ve had to remind myself about that over and over. Even so, it can be hard to find moments of clarity about pain. That’s why it’s important to simply honor your struggle.
When you honor the struggle, you let it be. You can know it’s ok to feel the emotions along the way. You may even get to the point where you see pain and struggle as life lessons. But you can’t make that progression unless you honor the struggle, step by step.
Honoring the struggle is not only part of your journey, it might be how you get to know yourself better, including learning to truly love yourself. It’s that simple and that complex. Try honor your own struggle and find your inner strength and badass.
If you’re not sure how to move though the process and find that inner strength in the struggle, let me help you. While we could work one-on-one, you could also jump into my holiday women’s circle. If this is your first holiday alone or you’re not looking forward to the holidays because of other life changes, grab one of the 10 available spots now!
