The second tattoo I got down my forearm says, “I am enough.” I got it at a time when I needed the reminder. Every time I see it, I’m reminded that no one can determine my worth.
I grew up the oldest of three sisters. I blazed trails. A lot was expected of me. Regardless of my accomplishments, I didn’t feel good enough. I could get straight As, get awards, graduate as valedictorian, volunteer, get into a good college. Still, I never felt acknowledged either.
I AM enough, regardless of how I felt growing up. Today, I’ve learned that no one is worth sacrificing myself or my peace. I have no time for toxic people. I have no time for people who don’t have my back. I don’t have time for liars. I don’t care for people who think they are better than me. If you’re going to judge me, just go and leave me alone.
Here’s the truth. By setting boundaries and clearly delineating how I deserve to be treated, those who would treat me poorly are not worth my time and space. I have no energy for that. My peace is too important to me.
By removing myself from the people and places where I don’t feel appreciated or respected, I’m taking care of myself. I do believe the woman I’m becoming will cost me people, relationships and more. I’m going to choose myself over everything.
My husband and my daughter are the exact opposite of what I’ve outlined here. They always have my back. They treat me well. They take care of me. They make me happy. We treat each other as we each deserve.
I believe in surrounding myself with the people who don’t make me prove myself and who make me feel as though I am enough.
